A Cinderella Story


in Personal Growth

In the past few weeks, I have found myself in situations where I have been asked to narrow my scope in one form or another. To define what one thing it is that I do. To be this, be that. To fit in an acceptable, easily-understood box.

It made me all squirmy.

I fussed and I bothered. Turned things around and around in my head. Tried to decide if I was wrong in my approach. Second-guessed. Agonized.

After all of that churning, I’ve come full circle to this: it is perfectly ok to want to embrace my multitudes. I like them. I don’t want to give them up.

Each of us contains multitudes – of ideas, interests, experiences, attributes, and abilities. It is what gives us our depth, range, and capacity. It makes us unique.

To my way of thinking, this is a very good thing.

But, my experiences lately make me wonder how many of us, like Cinderella’s evil stepsisters, readily lop off parts of ourselves in order to fit into the designated glass slipper.

The sisters chopped off parts of their feet in order to secure a “dream” life with the prince. (For those of you who have only read the sanitized Disney version of Cinderella, you might want to check out the Grimm Brothers’ version.) They were willing to inflict pain and damage themselves in order to achieve that end. For their efforts, they ended up maimed and blind.

Not a happy ending.

Sometimes the means don’t justify the end. Honor your path. Embrace your multitudes.

Keep your limbs intact.

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Shingyo Shelley March 7, 2011 at

Thanks for making me smile, Andrea. I like to think that today’s modern woman would only maim hers feet to fit into a Manolo Blahnik, which she could buy for herself!


Andrea March 7, 2011 at

Love that! Thanks, Shelley.


Rasheed Hooda March 7, 2011 at

— Honor your path. Embrace your multitudes.

I Love that statement!

Thanks for sharing. I have seen multiple blog posts on the same thing lately. I would say that means that more and more people are breaking the mold and trying to find a way to educate the multitude on the alternative.
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Andrea March 7, 2011 at

I’m so happy to hear that! It’s good to know that I am not alone. :) Thanks, Rasheed!


Bobbye Middendorf March 7, 2011 at

Hey Andrea, Coming into your circle via the truth-telling Ronna Detrick…This conversation is one I have with myself often — Expressing the multitudinous gifts and dimensions from within vs. streamlining it to that “one thing” so that maybe people will get one small slice of what I do or who I am. It’s exacerbated in the online world, where “keywords” and SEO how-tos tantalize us with the possibilities of “success” that will appear (like the prince) once we’ve refined ourselves to a single SEO self. Thank you for putting out there so boldly the joy of acknowledging and stepping fully into the complex and multi-dimensional selves that so many of us long to express!
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Andrea March 7, 2011 at

Hi Bobbye! Thank you for the lovely comment. I wonder what would happen if we stopped trying to squeeze ourselves into the smallest possible spaces and, instead, owned all that we are are?


Erica Cosminsky March 7, 2011 at


Such a great post. Over the past few weeks it seems I’ve faced the same thing. Difficult to explain in a short comment but it seems others like to see things in extremes. I can’t be a “feminist” without being a hardcore feminist. Why do people go to such great links to categorize others and make them fit a puzzle piece?

In the end it just causes strain and frustration for the categorizer and pressure on each of us.
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Andrea March 7, 2011 at

Thanks, Erica! I wonder if the complexities we offer as individuals are sometimes, well, … complex. It takes effort to see and understand them. It’s much easier to slap a label on something rather than to see and acknowledge the nuances let alone celebrate them as wonderful and unique.


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